Three Ugly Truths About Being Single You Have Never Heard Before

But I hear them everyday and it makes me sad

Singleness is taboo.

That’s what most Africans think, especially Nigerians.

At age eighteen, everyone is looking forward to your wedding already.

At 22, people start to pry and ask you questions.

When you are 25 years old and above, they see you as an overripe fruit rotting slowly, with black spots all over.

That’s the mindset around here.

This month I joined the late 20s group, and now that I’m 26, it seems marriage is the only thing everyone talks to me about.

Maybe they see a baby-making machine when they look at me.

I don’t know, but here are some of the ugly things single women face everyday.

In Nigeria, a married woman gets more respect than a single one.

Even if they are the same age.

They say it’s not the woman you are respecting, but the husband that is keeping a roof over her head.

There’s a married lady, about my age, at a fashion school where I train. Most times, she leaves work early and nobody questions her.

But when it’s my turn, I get endless questions.

Why are you going home early? What are you doing at home? You don’t have a husband or a child waiting for you, so why are you leaving?

So no husband means everybody can be rude to me.

Everyone thinks you're worthless.

If they try hard enough, they might make you think it too.

The older you get as a single woman, the lesser your value.

They believe your high and mighty attitude would be gone since you can’t find a husband.

Men are rude to you too because they assume no one wants you at that age.

After all, you’re desperate, so how dare you be picky?

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